I’m listening to the relatively-new Daft Punk album as
I pound out these words to you.
This album is a JAM. Song I’m listening to right now
You know what else is the shit?
GOOD TEXTING GAME.
For some reason, I’ve gotten numerous emails with questions
about my personal texting style this last week, so I figured
we’d take this weekend to discuss just that..
BTW, I love these phrases we’ve come up with.
Here’s a first hint: If you’re viewing at texting as a game,
you’re viewing it wrong.
Not because it’s not a game (it is) but because a HUGE KEY
of my texting style is putting almost NO VALUE on anything
Recognize: It’s just binary communication where both parties have as much
or as little time as they want to craft their messages.
Translation: Texting pales in comparison to human-to-human communication.
(And I tell this to girls too. It’s usually something like, “I just hate texting.
It’s so disconnected, and distracting from what I’m doing in real life –
I like this, I like person-to-person communication, not pushing buttons
on my phone. Real life is just so much more fulfilling than that.” This also
sets the tone for how we’ll be communicating in our friendship.)
So my #1 rule about texting is, because it’s so low-value,
you are not allowed to read into any of it.
She takes a long time to respond?
Doesn’t matter. It’s just text.
You take a long time to respond to her?
Doesn’t matter. It’s just text.
She doesn’t go “hahah you’re so amazing and well-hung” at your little text joke?
Doesn’t matter. It’s just text.
She does go “haha you’re so amazing and well-hung and dreamlike” at your text joke?
STILL doesn’t matter. It’s just text.
Now that we have that out of the way, here are 3 more little things
I’ve just learned to do personally with my texting girls..
1. I spell words wrong sometimes on purpose.
I don’t know why I do this.
I’m literally laughing right now as I type this because it should be so meaningless
but I definitely do this and it definitely seems to elicit better responses in general.
Nothing huge but maybe, “We’re gonna get there at 9, bring your best personality”
turns into “We’re gnna get there at 9, bring ur bst personality”.
In a perfect world, it serves as a reminder that you don’t really need her or care
all that much about impressing her. I don’t know if it does that – at this point, I kind
of just try to misspell as much as I can and see if she can still understand it all.
2. I let her know it’s a HUGE DEAL if I’m taking her number.
I don’t do this premeditated – it’s just the truth.
For the most part, I do not take girls phone numbers anymore.
I give out my number and let the ones who really want to see me
text me – it does all the sorting for me.
But on the rare occasion I meet a girl who I REALLY LIKE,
which happens for me maybe ONE out of every 150 girls,
I tell them something like:
“Listen, I’ll just be honest with you. I almost never take a girls phone
number, because I’m never really all that impressed or smitten. And
I’m a Dating Coach, my job is sort of women, so I tend to meet
A LOT of girls. But you….I don’t know what it is but I feel different
around you. It’s not a phsyical thing. Maybe this place just has
magical properties, I don’t really know, I don’t really care. But right now,
before this conversation continues any further, we’re exchanging
phone numbers right now because we’re seeing each other again.”
And I’ll say this excitedly, like “this is so weird, I didn’t mean to feel this way
but…it just is” because that’s how I actually feel. It’s entirely honest and genuine.
By letting them know this, it not only communicates your intentions
in a context of how selective you are (good) but it lets her know
you really do feel differently about her.
So when you do text THESE specific girls, they’re ultra-responsive
because they know you do that with almost no one..
3. Pictures are worth 1,000 words.
A couple years ago, I was at a party (HUGE SURPRISE!!!!).
At some point, these two girls I had met there wanted
to take a picture with me on their phones.
They both then proceeded to send the photo to like 5 different guys each,
at the same time.
I checked on my curiosity. Yup, it was piqued.
So I asked them, “Why did you just send that to all those guys?”
The cuter of the two explained to me, “I just randomly send pics
sometimes to the guys I’m talking to. Usually pics where I look
really cute or if I’m in a pic with another really cute guy to let them
know, I ain’t alone. I have a whole folder of saved photos for this.”
I told her I liked her style and would 100% be stealing that,
which is exactly what I’ve done today.
I have all kinds of different saved pics today – funny ones, sexier ones,
crazy ones, cute ones etc – that I’ll send out at specific times to different girls.
Although texts mean very little, pictures are worth a little bit more
(I believe the official exchange rate is 1 picture = 1,000 words).
So those are 3 little things I do personally with my texting style
for all you homeys out there asking about it.
Now this is the time I’m supposed to recommend that if you thought that was helpful,
and you want every trick I have, you invest in my texting guide or training.
I won’t be doing that.
You can count on it: I will never create a texting book, mostly
for the reasons stated above. I just don’t care enough about it.
So with that being said, if you do want a whole guide on texting,
watch this video and read their book:
I’ve read it twice myself, the first time maybe a couple years ago,
and the second just last month. Rob and I have a lot of similar views
on texting and it is the only guide out there that gets my
rare-as-fvck REAL stamp of approval.
NOW…if you have any specific questions about texting,
hit ‘Reply’ to this email now and send them in.
I will be answering them tomorrow.
I’m going to the Apple Store now to have those smart nerds
install Bootcamp on my computer cuz I can’t figure it out.
Then the gym.
Then the bathroom, cuz I’ll probably have to relieve myself at some point.
Then this charity event on Paramount Studios I got invited to a couple days ago.
Then dinner with Greg Greenway and out in Hollywood.
Have a good Saturday dude – be free.
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